Top Five Qoutes on Perseverance

I am currently reading a book on interview tips and what I find interesting is the top 5 things anyone ever said about perseverance I want to share with you guys..

And here is a short intro on who they are ...

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow was an American educater and poet. 

Henry Ward Beecher  was a prominent, Congregationalist clergyman, social reformer, abolitionist, and speaker.

Thomas Edison was an American inventor, scientist, and businessman who developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world, including most used electric light bulb.

Franklin D. Roosevelt was the 32nd President of the United States.

Albert Einstein was a theoretical physicist, philosopher and author who is widely regarded as one of the most influential and best known scientists and intellectuals of all time.

Ambil pengajaran dari kata-kata orang berjaya....

3D2N of Friendship Building

I would prefer to call this a friendship building rather than the actual team building.  I mean, it's a great binding experience for all of us, but it is just that...On the whole, it's rather casual and not too painful though I have to brave myself for a jungle trekking in a gloomy day.. The statistic says that gloomy days will invite more pacat compare to the normal sunny days.. Arghhh... hate too imagine those stupid-good-for-nothing-creatures swing their antenae looking for innocent victim like me..

I arrived quite late, so I just missed the first race.  Nightime and morning session was pretty casual, with the expected management analysis session.  I'm rather sceptical this session is meaningful to initiate changes coz I am very very very damn sure, when we go back to KL we will be sitting at ground zero again - means life will goes on as usual.  (Not good aahhh... sound pessimistic on the first day at the office after TB event)

The most gruelling event for me is jungle trekking and the only reason is for the possibility of me encounter with the most *#&*! creatures in the world i.e. pacat.  The wheather looks very pacat-friendly, make me nervous from the start of the journey.  But I don't go in without preparation... Tracksuit carefully tuck-in inside the socks, then evenly and generously sprayed with Ridsect, and not to forget to bring this big can of Ridsect to the jungle too, just in case...

at last...a big smile after quite confident that the trek is rather pacat free.. this is before boss shout 'ada pacat kat depan tuh'

Then my pain of pacat-illusioned all gone when boss buy a big box of durian, so all of us melantak durian before the dance show..

So that was all about the friendship building session that we have over the weekend.  It was a nice binding experience.. but seriously, I am not looking forward for it to be held every year. I think TB program is too cliched...  Macam anak aku cakap bila aku nak hantar dia pegi kursus motivasi - 'ma, ada tak sesi yang last pejam mata, pastu nangis-nangis, kalau ada, adik tak nak pergi la...'.  Itulah perasaan aku setiap kali perkataan TB keluar dari mulut TB proponent.  Bagi aku, kalau ikut World Cup cycle pun kira dah cukup bagus la.. Hence, I pray that this is not raised again in the PIBG meeting until 2013.  Get a life, go fly kite...

Marriage Renovation - Lets Reinvent.....

After few days of digesting the qoute from one of Oprah's guests about marriages in my last post, it keep me ponder the reality nowadays about marriage.  I'll just recap the qoute from my last post "those days marriage used to be sacred, ancient union of man and woman, but nowadays marriage means economic contract".   I have actually some mixed thought about her philosophy.  To a certain extent, I am beginning to agree that marriage is now becoming economic contract because women or wives are encroaching into breadwinner's sphere.  It is definitely not the same anymore.  By the 'sacred, stone-age' definition (aku punya definition la ni...), 'wife or 'housewife' is a woman who do everything, I mean everything, in the house' , while 'husband is a men who brings money home and do nothing in the house'.  This model works well with our parents and those before them.  So why there a so many short term union nowadays?  BCOZ - man and woman simply fail to understand that things have change since woman started to enter the job market.  Yang hak laki ni, dia dok buat ego cam tu jugak, hang bini hang buat semua keje rumah, pasai duit pandai lak nak share responsibility. Yang hak pompuan pulak kata, aku kerja pun penat gak, aku malah la wei, makan la kat kedai, basuh/gosok baju kat kedai, agak2 laki mengamuk, aku mengamuk sekali, aku pun ada duit gak....Itu la bunga pertama kepada jalan cerai.  Marriage is so short term nowadays that many mat salleh's marriages nowadays, begin with prenuptial agreement...

Most celebrity in US sign this before they tie the knot

The pre-nup toolkit also can be purchased online

In Malaysia context, where pre-nup agreement sounds very rude, we can start with paradigm shift on what marriages is all about.  First step is marriages need to be portrayed as setting up a new business with a partner.  In business, first you find the partner that you like, with the right chemistry, who you think you can work with, then only both of you draw a certain business plan.... Perbandingannya kalau dalam kerja aku, kita panggil Detailed Business Plan (DBP), cuma yg ini MCMC tak monitor la kan....  A Marriage DBP should clearly assigns the targets, the capex, the opex, where to resource it, who do what, when, how - with the ultimate aim to see their business succeed and make as much profit as possible.  As is with the business, there will be time of recession, disaster, stormy wheather, then both partners need to sail through, good or bad, by not finding fault of each other, but take responsibility, tolerate, help each other, and many more vocabolaries that you can find in the book of chicken soup for marriages...

As a closing, I would like to recap this strategic qoute from Marisa Demori of Ipoh, extract from letter to editor in Sun newspaper,

Love and marriage are unlikely to go out of fashion, but even the deepest feeling and the most sacred institution need some kind of renovation as times pass by.  Prospective marriage partners should be taught to make a plan, have a goal.

When young people in love are taught that they will share both love and rewards, and that their bottom line profit will be higher if they enter into marriage deal, they will be more keen on getting married because the advantages will be apparent.

The key to save marriage life is to view the marriage as equitable and mutually advantageous business deal.

....put this clause in the your DBP...

Marisa has put a strong but very relevant view there.  I'm sure this is not covered in the syllabus for Kursus Kahwin by Jakim.  I think I'll tell my my children when they are ready to set up the business..marriage business that is..

BBQ for Fathers... and Others

Its been quite sometimes since we have a BBQ dinner.  Landscape of life has been changed and it takes time for me to adapt to new environment.  Life has to go on, and I think I need to do this anyway.  I missed the casual makan2 do with close family members, and everybody loves BBQ.  So I would think father's day is the right day to have the event.  It was a simple do.  I prepared the chicken, my sister prepared nasi goreng and brought in some pizzas.  I normally bought marinated chicken from carrefour, but the last time I bought it, they mixed good with stale chicken, so I swear dah tak nak beli lagi.  I bought 3 large chicken, cut into 12 pieces and marinated with Heinz barbecue sauce, few teaspoon of BBQ spice, put in 2 packet of maggi black pepper mix, a few spoon of olive oil, and salt to taste.. Wallahwei..taste as good as carrefour...

Before grilling - 8 hours marinated...

BBQ in progress

Put on chicken franks too...

Dah siap tu apalagi... makan la...

Simple dessert - malas nak masak heavy dessert, malam2 org tak makan banyak..

Highlights of the day - delicious cheese cake tribute to the dads of night...

Until next year... Happy father's day to the father of my children... Thanks for anchoring this ship excellently...

Penghargaan Buat Ayah

Last trip aku balik KB ayah memang tak sihat.  Tapi ayah tetap ayah.. dia sangat penyimpan, especially tentang sakit dia.  Masa dia kena admitted ke ER last two weeks, dia cakap ngan semua orang jangan bagitau kat aku.  Nanti aku balik segera, tentu menyusahkan jer.. Cuma naluri aku memang tebal, aku kebetulan telepon dan tak dapat nak elak kena cakap jugak.  Tapi dia berkeras cakap dia OK, tak yah balik.  Itu lah ayah ku.. Ayah seorang yang bervisi.  Visinya lah yang selalu mengerakkan sesuatu 'projek' atau 'keputusan' besar dalam keluarga kami.  Ayah juga sangat overprotected terhadap aku.  Aku ingat lagi masa mula balik dari US, dia lah tukang mencari kerja untuk aku dengan bertanya sana sini.  Dah dapat interview tu pulak, merata dia dok pi hantar aku.  Kalau boleh, dia nak masuk sekali bilik interview tu nak tolong jawab.  Dah sudah interview tu, dia follow-up lagi dengan contact dia tuhh.. Itu lah ayah ku.. Masa aku beranak semuanya 4 kali, ayah tak pernah miss jaga aku ngan cucu dia.. Ayah akan berada di rumahku sepanjang pantang, dan sentiasa standby disisiku.. Itulah ayahku... Semua yang ku sebut ini hanyalah sekelumit jasa ayah yang boleh aku sebut... Kalau aku nak dikira jasa ayah tentulah tak muat nak tulis kat blog nih.. Tak de kata2 yang aku boleh cakap kat sini dapat merangkumi jasa ayah... Selamat menyambut hari ayah... maybe I never said it right to your face ayah, but you know that I will always love you.. May Allah blessed you now, forever and hereafter...

YOU RAISED ME UP - by John Groban

When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;

When troubles come and my heart burdened be;

Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,

Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;

You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;

I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;

You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;

I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

There is no life - no life without its hunger;

Each restless heart beats so imperfectly;

But when you come and I am filled with wonder,

Sometimes, I think I glimpse eternity.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;

You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;

I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;

You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;

I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

I LOVE YOU AYAH.... GLAD TO BE YOUR LITTLE GIRL...

Can Money Buy Happiness? Or Is it Love? or Both?

When I first heard the news of HRH Sultan of Brunei (HRHSB) divorcing his wife, the first thing that crossed my mind is how big will the divorce settlement will be.. HRHSB is not listed in the Forbes 500 richest list, but he is surely royally-damn rich.. Azrinaz quit his journalism job prior to marry HRHSB in 2005.. And this picture is of their happier threesome times...

5 years and 2 kids later.. things change when things needed to be changed.. Just like the bedsheet that need to be changed everynow and then.. Surely the picture painted in her face is not so 'queenly' anymore compare to the above.  But can the money wipe out those unhappiness.. Can the loneliness can be erased by drowning one-self into sea of wealth...? Only she can answer it.. By the look of her face below..may be not..or not so fast..

In the history of world divorces, the most expensive divorce settlement goes to the oldie media giant Rupert Murdoch at USD 1.7 billion, and I think that is a lot of money he gave to his ex-wife considering he is only no. 117 in 2010 Forbes Richest, I mean our very own Malaysian, Ananda Krishnan is at no. 89 and Kuok Sugar King (mana gula ni bro...) is at better ranking at no.33.  Murdoch must have a high degree of 'appreciation' to his wife of 32 years and 3 children, hence willing to split his billions to his estrange, later stranger x-wife. Will that settlement buy happiness or what.. I think for a USD 1.7 billion, I would like to say a resounding 'YES'... (gile ker ape... banyak tu beb..)

So is it love or money that needed for marriage?  Qoute from Oprah's guest (lupa nama sapa perempuan tu, she's a writer) last nite about 'marriage' sounds somewhat like this "those days marriage used to be sacred, ancient union of man and woman, but nowadays marriage means economic contract".  If you go by this qoute, it definitely is money.. Itu perspektif Mat Salleh, namun ia semakin ter-asimilasi di dalam perkahwinan orang melayu kita.  Marriage is not sacred anymore.  That's why divorce is so rampant nowadays.  Jgn kata artis, yang tak artis pun sama jer...

Perspektif Islam pula bagaimana? Jawapannya tidaklah terlalu trivial.. Begitulah mudahnya Islam, baik dalam perkahwinan mahupun apa jua yang kita lakukan.. Setiap amal yang dilakukan kenalah kerana kecintaan kepada Allah, kena fisabiliLlah iaitu ke jalan Allah dulu, barulah timbang balik nawaitu tu atas rasa cinta, harta, rupa-paras dan begitulah seterusnya...Bukankah kita sebagai muslim telah berjanji untuk menjadikan cinta kepada Allah SWT mengatasi segala-galanya? Dan ini seiring dengan firmanNya di dalam Surah Taubah Ayat 24:

قُلۡ إِن كَانَ ءَابَآؤُكُمۡ وَأَبۡنَآؤُڪُمۡ وَإِخۡوَٲنُكُمۡ وَأَزۡوَٲجُكُمۡ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمۡ وَأَمۡوَٲلٌ ٱقۡتَرَفۡتُمُوهَا وَتِجَـٰرَةٌ۬ تَخۡشَوۡنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَـٰكِنُ تَرۡضَوۡنَهَآ أَحَبَّ إِلَيۡڪُم مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِۦ وَجِهَادٍ۬ فِى سَبِيلِهِۦ فَتَرَبَّصُواْ حَتَّىٰ يَأۡتِىَ ٱللَّهُ بِأَمۡرِهِۦ‌ۗ وَٱللَّهُ لَا يَہۡدِى ٱلۡقَوۡمَ ٱلۡفَـٰسِقِينَ

“Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): Jika bapa-bapa kamu dan anak-anak kamu dan saudara-saudara kamu dan isteri-isteri (atau suami-suami) kamu dan kaum keluarga kamu dan harta benda yang kamu usahakan dan perniagaan yang kamu bimbang akan merosot, dan rumah-rumah tempat tinggal yang kamu sukai, (jika semuanya itu) menjadi perkara-perkara yang kamu cintai lebih daripada Allah dan RasulNya dan (daripada) berjihad untuk agamaNya, maka tunggulah sehingga Allah mendatangkan keputusanNya (azab seksaNya); kerana Allah tidak akan memberi petunjuk kepada orang-orang yang fasik (derhaka). ” (QS. 9 : 24)

Pengalaman orang lain adalah guru tanpa suara.  Ambil iktibar...

Next - Delighted in Kelantan

It was a short holiday trips back to hometown visiting mom and dad.  Despite the short trip, we maximize the visit on things we normally does.  Have chit-chat with parents, relatives and streams of visitors to my parents' house, enjoy cheap but good food, shopping and of course attending to weddings.  The highlights of the visit is the wedding of the brother of my niece's wife.  Its Johor againts NS who live in Kelantan... The wedding was held at Sweet Beach Resort on Tok Bali beaches.  I just happen to snap this one and only photo of the bride and groom on the carriage....

Bard and Shah - all de best...

My hubby with cutest girl in town - Darwisya, my second cucu-sedare, with Sofia and Neesa look on..

After the ceremony we went to the beach behind the resort, about 100 meters of walking.  I think the stretch of beaches begining from Pantai Semarak, Irama, Tok Bali and Melawi is one of the best beaches in Malaysia with its fine white sands, matured beach pine trees to shelter visitors from hot sun and crystal clear blue seas... The only problem is Kelantan Government does not properly developed these areas into tourist attraction, and development of each resorts are proprietary and not integrated.  What could have been kilometers and kilometers of beautiful resort is therefore not fully optimised... The road leading to these beautiful beaches has not change much some 20 years later.. I hope some people with tourism vision would look into these gems.. Lets just enjoy the gems in its virgin state...

Magnificent beach horizon..

Lazy hot summer afternoon by the beach, kalau ada tikar boleh lena nih...

She loves the fine white sands..

Coconut trees giving a nostalgic flavors to the view of beach facing the land

Mafia Kelate - view from the ground...

 Delighted to be in Kelantan...until next trip....

First - To Kelantan Delights

The day before I went back to Kelantan, me and the gang went for a gastronomics trips at Kelantan Delight at KL Sentral.  This upmarket Kelantan specialities restaurant served food of native to Kelantan with additional menu of Thai influence (Kelantan and Thai is somewhat borderless - my grands are Thais).  What I like best here at KD is its Tom Yam Kelapa Muda. It has an authentic flavor of tom yam with seafood and young coconut slices, heavily sprinkle with coriander leaves, giving it a real thai taste. 

Tom Yam Kelapa Muda and Kankong Goreng Belacan

Other favorite dish is Kerapu Sweet Sour - krispy from mouth-to-stomach with a balance taste of sweet and sour flavors. 

Best dish of the day - Kerapu Sweet & Sour

Not to be missed is fully marinated Daging Bakar Air Asam, and Kerabu Mangga taste great too.  Other dish such as ayam tomato, kangkong goreng belacan and mixed vegies are on the average scale. 

Daging Bakar Air Asam

Ayam Tomato and Kerabu Mangga

For the dessert we have pulut durian, lompat tikam and sago gula melaka.  We thought we want to share the dessert, but during ordering it seems that we have one each.  We ended full to the brim...

Free Cholestrol Dessert consist of Lompat Tikam, Pulut Durian and Sago Gula Melaka

The drinks is uniquely superb - which is guava juice with sour sop....a yummy washdown to the sinful afternoon... 

Thanks to the paymaster of the day for the heavenly meal....

7 Days Againts 7 Years

I love no.7 and consider this as lucky number.  Many great soccer player like Beckham, Cristiano Ronaldo, Eric Cantona and Raul put 7 on their jersey. Then, there are 7 Wonders of the World.  And as for me,  I was born on the 7 moon, work on Floor 7, stay in house with few no 7 and many more 7 that colors my life. 

Let me just talk about 7 days.  In Islam, on the 7th day of the newborn, it is a sunnah to name the baby, hold the sacrifice or aqiqah, shave the baby's hair, then donate the money equivalent to the gold value of the weight of the baby's hair to the poor.  When a muslim passed away, there will be a special tahlil held on the 7th day to mark the end of nightly tahlil.  7 years also have its significance.  There is english idiom that says '7 years itch', to show the likeliness to stray after 7 years of marriage.  7 years is the start of formal education in Malaysia.  Saidina Ali R.A also line up 3 phase of 7 years in briging-up children i.e. first 7 years - plays with them, second 7 years - teach, educate, discipline them, and the third 7 years - be their friends and guide them.  If you do this, insyaallah, beyond 21 years old they know how to differentiate what right from wrong in the Islamic perspective.  How beautiful this three phases of bringing up children that Saidina Ali R.A. has left for the ummah... 

Back to the 7 days againts 7 years, here in reality, in my working world (normally I don't like to write about office life, but this one is an exception).  The other day I just overheard a guy who just got tranferred from the other department on his 7th day here to my division asking about his job term.. And I overheard the answer from my boss, equivalent to one of the commonly-heard-hadhis 'do what are askence upon thee, leave what are forbidden upon thee'... And I said, WOW! I mean this is my 7th year  in this division (I came here in 2003 from the other division), never before I have ever faced the situation where job term is so high level like this.  From now and until when (?), job term for me (the 7 years fellow) and the other guy (the 7 days fellow), shall remain cloudy....

Setting aside all the no. 7, good or bad, let's just ponder Allah's creation of heaven and earth in 7 layers - where science can only explained it hundreds of years later...

Surah At-Thalaq:

ٱللَّهُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَ سَبۡعَ سَمَـٰوَٲتٍ۬ وَمِنَ ٱلۡأَرۡضِ مِثۡلَهُنَّ يَتَنَزَّلُ ٱلۡأَمۡرُ بَيۡنَہُنَّ لِتَعۡلَمُوٓاْ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَىۡءٍ۬ قَدِيرٌ۬ وَأَنَّ ٱللَّهَ قَدۡ أَحَاطَ بِكُلِّ شَىۡءٍ عِلۡمَۢا (١٢)

Allah is He Who created seven Firmaments and of the earth a similar number. through the midst of them (all) descends his Command: that ye may know that Allah has power over all things and that Allah comprehends all things, in (His) Knowledge.

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This is disaster of the working world, let's just find happiness within this sadness...

Change of Face

I change the face of my blog today.. Change is needed when change comes.  In life change comes everyday, depends on what your task are.  You change attire every day.. You need to change menu so to keep your appetite alive.. You change your bedsheet may be once a week, or a tootbrush once a month, or your resolution every year.  But there are things in your life you can't change, how hard you pray for it to change, you call it fate (Even this may be change with continous DOA).  So while you are given the opportunity to change, be thankful and take that opportunity to change.  Because there are millions of people out there cannot make choice of simple change - even changing their clothes or what they eat..

Ole..Ole..Ole...Africa Here Comes

England team has landed in my office for the last two weeks and will be there till the World Cup is over.  So I dont want to miss the chance of taking pic with them.. Datang jauh-jauh, kesian la kan kalau tak bergambar ngan depa ni..

Here is Syahmi standing in the middle (sempat tu menyelit masa pick me up)

And me squatting in front with Lotus at the back (nampak pendek la kak.. itu yg aku tak nak berdiri tu..)

Well, until next 4 years...

Antara Marjan, Sunda dan Mexico

Itulah tiga tempat yang aku dah terokai dalam bulan May sebenarnya.. dah agak lama, tapi elok aku gabungkan kembara makan ku didalam satu post. 

AL-MARJAN - Pertama aku ke Al-Marjan.  Marjan membawa makna 'Batu Delima' ada disebut didalam surah Ar Rahman ayat 22.  Cantik Al-Marjan dunia ni di KLCC, namun tidak seindah bait-bait ayat indah dari Ar Rahman yang terus menyoal-tubi kepada Jin dan Manusia 'فَبِأَىِّ ءَالَآءِ رَبِّكُمَا تُكَذِّبَانِ ' yang bermaksud 'Maka yang mana satu di antara nikmat-nikmat Tuhan kamu, yang kamu hendak dustakan?' Menusuk jiwa bagi sesiapa yg ingin ambil pengajaran.. Pun begitu Al-Marjan di KLCC tidak mengecewakan dari segi makanan.  Bertemakan Lebanese Food, semua masakannya memang lazat terutama grill ayam dan ikan, very juicy with mild taste of meditranean spice and dash of lemon juice...

Arab Pizza Bread with Grilled Chicken

Same dish, but this is grilled fish..

For this fulfilling meal, I thank the biggest durian winner of 2010...

SUNDA - Aku menyusuri pula ke Sunda di KLCC.. Makanan Sunda punya influence Indonesia Jawa.  Masakan yg dipilih hari itu semuanya lazat2, ada sedikit persamaan dengan nasi padang, dan kalau yang berkicap tu pasti rasa kicap manisnya.  Hari tu menu yang dipilih ialah pucuk paku masak lemak, sotong goreng kicap, ayam sambal rojak, daging dendeng, terung goreng berlada dan siakap goreng garing kicap.. Tapi yang paling aku suka ialah nasi kunyit.  Nasi kunyit rasa macam pulut kuning, tapi lagi enak.... Kalau aku ke sini lagi pasti aku tak nak miss nasi kunyit ni...

Ayam Sambal Rojak dan Daging Dendeng

Sotong Kicap dan Terung Goreng Berlada

My desert ABC... Yummy...

For this tasteful Asean cuisine, my thank goes to the second durian winner of 2010...

MEXICO - Negara ketiga dalam perjalananku ialah Mexico 'aka' Chilis juga di planet yang sama iaitu KLCC.  Makan di Chilis is very challenging memandangkan orang ramai dan terpaksa queue panjang.  It takes us almost an hour to get the table because its eve of public holidays.  But, as I really craving for mexican food, I brave the hours of wait.  Waiting together with me were celebraty motivator Dr Tg Asmadi & Family, and Mas Idayu's Ex Aman Graseka & Famili (anak dia lawa2)... As I love mexican food, I really enjoy all the meal here.. We have steak, the yummy threesome, nachos, fish n chips and monterey chicken.  I definitely will come back for more..

Delicious threesome with superb dip

 Monterey Chicken - the whip potatos sinfully good

My favorite nachos

Steak - a lil bit welldone hence bitter..not the best steak I ever taste

So thats about all the important food journey I made in May, 3 continent, 3 its own unique taste that I love....

Burrp... Alhamdulillah...

Mari Eja SABAR dan IKHLAS

Kalau nak ikutkan, budak darjah satu pun dah boleh eja perkataan SABAR dan IKHLAS.  Apatah lagi nak menyebutnya.  Aku pun selalu gunakan kata-kata hikmah ni bila sahabat2 atau saudara ditimpa perkara2 yang menuntut SABAR mahu pun IKHLAS.  Aku selalu cakap pada org yg rapat dengan aku, kenapa la seseorang tu, sembahyangnya banyak, khatam Quran berkali-kali dalam setahun, puasa sunat jadi rutin dalam hidup, tapi sabarnya begitu tipis.  Bila Allah bagi 'cabaran' yang aku anggap agak besar di ribaan ku, barulah aku sedar, rupanya SABAR dan IKHLAS senang disebut, senang dieja, tapi bila nak implement tu, mak aihhh.. payah sungguh.  Banyak buku-buku, Al-Quran dan hadhis, dah aku susuri, tapi tersasar juga aku dari SABAR dan IKHLAS yang aku cari.  Rupanya, bila aku kata kat kawan aku 'Sabar la.. ini Allah nak cuba, kita kena redha la..' hanya kata2 standard untuk menunjukkan kita empati sahaja (walaupun akau seriously mean it). Tidak ada apa2 yg dapat kita buat dengan kata-kata sekecil itu.  Andainya ada pil SABAR dan IKHLAS di jual di Guardian Pharmacy sebagaimana paracetamol, mau saja aku membeli sebotol dua, dan gunakan bila perlu.  Sayang sekali ia tak semudah itu... Sifir SABAR dan IKHLAS bukanlah boleh dicampur tolak lalu datang hasilnya.  Kedua perkara ini memerlukan YAKIN yang sangat tinggi kepada Allah.  Nak dapat YAKIN ni yang paling susah sebab YAKIN tu intangible.  YAKIN bahawa Allah tahu takdir ni terbaik untuk kita, YAKIN bahawa Allah akan balas kebaikan dengan lebih kebaikan, YAKIN masalah pasti ada penyelesaian, YAKIN dengan berserah kepada Allah sebagaimana dari ayat 129 AtTaubah:

حَسۡبِىَ ٱللَّهُ لَآ إِلَـٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ‌ۖ عَلَيۡهِ تَوَڪَّلۡتُ‌ۖ وَهُوَ رَبُّ ٱلۡعَرۡشِ ٱلۡعَظِيمِ

Yang bermaksud: "Cukuplah bagiku Allah (yang menolong dan memeliharaku), tiada Tuhan (yang berhak disembah) melainkan Dia; kepadaNya aku berserah diri dan Dialah yang mempunyai Arasy yang besar"

Cantik sungguh ayat 'berserah' ini yang boleh dijadikan pil 7 kali pagi dan 7 kali petang... dan ini hanyalah sepotong dari ribuan ayatnya yang boleh dijadikan pil penenang untuk kita.  Gali lah lagi khazanah yg banyak dari Al Quran dan Hadis untuk dijadikan pil bila musibah menjelma... kerana janji Allah itu benar - cubaan dan dugaan adalah pasti untuk kita sebagaimana termaktub didalam Al-Baqarah (155 - 157)

Demi sesungguhnya! Kami akan menguji kamu dengan sedikit perasaan takut (kepada musuh) dan (dengan merasai) kelaparan dan (dengan berlakunya) kekurangan dari harta benda dan jiwa serta hasil tanaman dan berilah khabar gembira kepada orang-orang yang sabar. (155) (Iaitu) orang-orang yang apabila mereka ditimpa oleh sesuatu kesusahan, mereka berkata: Sesungguhnya kami adalah kepunyaan Allah dan kepada Allah jualah kami kembali. (156) Mereka itu ialah orang-orang yang dilimpahi dengan berbagai-bagai kebaikan dari Tuhan mereka serta rahmatNya dan mereka itulah orang-orang yang dapat petunjuk hidayatNya. (157)

Salam SABAR, IKHLAS dan REDHA...